I am so thankful for those of you who read my blog. I want you all to know that, very soon, I will be transitioning to a new website. I will make you aware of the new web address when it is time to make the move. Expect to see this happen in the next two weeks. For those of you who have signed up to receive notifications when new posts are made, you will need to subscribe on the new website to continue receiving those notifications.
There is much more in store than just the blog moving, and I am very excited about revealing it all.
Thursday, July 31, 2014
Tuesday, July 29, 2014
When God Doesn't Stop the Lightning
A few weeks ago, while engaged in conversation that included a close friend of ours (my wife and I), this friend told a brief story that has stuck with me ever since. She, a mother of two, told about how her daughter often runs to her room during the night when there is a thunderstorm. The young girl is afraid of the lightning, like many of us were at that age (and possibly still are even today!). Our friend emphasized the depth of security her daughter felt in her mother's arms while the lightning bolts hit all around, causing loud thunder. Despite the fact this mother could not stop the storm, or even make her daughter completely safe from it, her daughter was comforted to be in her presence.
God could remove the lightning from our lives, but He rarely does this.
The parent-child relationship is a reflection of the relationship God has with His children. This story, shared by our friend, caused me to ponder what her experience with her daughter can tell me about my relationship with my Heavenly Father. Often, God does not choose to take away the things that bother me in my life. The irritations, heart breaks, disappointments, fears, and other things that hurt me often remain despite my pleading with Him to remove or fix them. What are we to do when He doesn't take away the lightning in our lives? If I take notes from the young girl, what is it that gives her such peace when in her mother's arms?
Security is not something we get from a lightning rod.
I know this young lady fairly well. I also know the relationship she has with her parents. She knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that they love her. I am sure there will be times, such as disciplinary interventions, that she might struggle with that truth. However, there is a firm foundation of guaranteed love that has no bounds. I'm betting she always comes back to that truth. THIS is what we need with God for true security. We, all too often, believe that God must take away the lightning in our lives for us to have peace. That is a lie. All we need is to be able to run to Him and allow Him to hold us in His arms while the thunder crashes all around us.
Security is a direct result of living in His love.
I am presently convinced that the most difficult part of our walk of faith is believing God's love for us is everpresent, unconditional, and neverending. Evidence of this is seen in the fact that many of us struggle with security almost every day, showing up as fears and anxiety. It's far too easy to lose sight of how He loves us because we have an endless number of sources telling us otherwise. Where the young girl in the story has a firm foundation of love with her mother, many of us struggle to rest in it with God. That means a new foundation is needed, and that is not an easy transition. A new foundation begins with being willing to tear down any and every thing that tells us something other than what is true about God's love for us in Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). And it requires something so simplistic that it boggles my mind how powerful it is: faith like that of a child.
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
What are People Worth?
Recently, on one of the many tangents my mind goes on each day, I began thinking about what things we value and why we value them. Things such as food and water are obvious: we value them highly because we need them. However, there are some things we deem as valuable that we do not necessarily "need". Gold and diamonds are things we do not need, but we typically value them highly. Some of us collect and value things such as baseball cards and model cars, things that others may find no value in at all.
Value is an essential part of relationships.
Assigning value in life is not restricted to just "things". Relationships could not exist without value. If we valued no one, we would isolate ourselves. The fact that we socialize at all indicates that we value others enough to use our time in that way. We value certain people, for whatever reason, so we engage them in conversation and want to be around them. We value some more than others, of course, and it would be deceptive to think otherwise.
Value can fluctuate quickly when its based on getting something in return.
When we start looking at "value" and how it applies to relationships, we can see some of the same characteristics mentioned already in valuing objects. Sometimes we value a relationship with someone because they have something to offer us. Similar to how we value food and water, we may feel that we need certain people. It may be due to connections they have that offer us something we want. It could also be more due to an emotional connection that we rely on in an attempt to meet some personal need. In both cases, when the other person stops offering what we want, we devalue them rather quickly like spoiled food that we cannot use anymore.
Others do not lose their value when we do not expect something from them.
Sometimes value in a relationship has nothing to do with obtaining something from the other person. Like picking up a seashell on the beach and admiring it, we find people in our lives that we value simply because of who they are. There's something about them we find captivating. A seashell offers nothing more than its beauty. It is what it is. A person we enjoy being around can be the same way. We just love and respect who they are. We value them highly, even when they have nothing to offer us but themselves.
It appears value can be divided up into two categories.
In the context of relationships, we either value someone because of what they can give us, or we value someone because of who they are. The truth appears to be that when it is based on what they can do for us, we do not value the person at all...only what they can give us. It may be a financially lucrative business connection they have, a talent they have that is advantageous to us, an emotional high that they are able to produce in us, a chance a child gives us to live vicariously through them, or some other thing a person can bring to the table that we want. When they no longer satisfy our requirement, we no longer see the need to continue pursuing the relationship. When we value someone simply for who they are, that value stands up to the great challenges that come along in any relationship because the value we place on that person is not based on selfish gain.
Where do we find our own value?
Just as we can base the value of objects and people on something stable or unstable, we can do the same with ourselves. If I see my value only in what I can offer others, it fluctuates. I go through highs and lows like a rollercoaster, dependent upon how well I perform. When I can find something more substantial and honest regarding my value and trust that source, I am much better off. What better source to inquire about my value than the One who created me?
One cool thing about God is that He is not like us when it comes to valuing people. He does not make the mistake of valuing us because of what we can do for Him. He chooses to love us, knowing we can never offer anything more than ourselves to Him. That love is seen clearly in the life and death of Jesus. He offered everything in the relationship He pursues with us. Our value is based on that love He has for us. When we embrace that love, our value is no longer in question.
Value is an essential part of relationships.
Assigning value in life is not restricted to just "things". Relationships could not exist without value. If we valued no one, we would isolate ourselves. The fact that we socialize at all indicates that we value others enough to use our time in that way. We value certain people, for whatever reason, so we engage them in conversation and want to be around them. We value some more than others, of course, and it would be deceptive to think otherwise.
Value can fluctuate quickly when its based on getting something in return.
When we start looking at "value" and how it applies to relationships, we can see some of the same characteristics mentioned already in valuing objects. Sometimes we value a relationship with someone because they have something to offer us. Similar to how we value food and water, we may feel that we need certain people. It may be due to connections they have that offer us something we want. It could also be more due to an emotional connection that we rely on in an attempt to meet some personal need. In both cases, when the other person stops offering what we want, we devalue them rather quickly like spoiled food that we cannot use anymore.
Others do not lose their value when we do not expect something from them.
Sometimes value in a relationship has nothing to do with obtaining something from the other person. Like picking up a seashell on the beach and admiring it, we find people in our lives that we value simply because of who they are. There's something about them we find captivating. A seashell offers nothing more than its beauty. It is what it is. A person we enjoy being around can be the same way. We just love and respect who they are. We value them highly, even when they have nothing to offer us but themselves.
It appears value can be divided up into two categories.
In the context of relationships, we either value someone because of what they can give us, or we value someone because of who they are. The truth appears to be that when it is based on what they can do for us, we do not value the person at all...only what they can give us. It may be a financially lucrative business connection they have, a talent they have that is advantageous to us, an emotional high that they are able to produce in us, a chance a child gives us to live vicariously through them, or some other thing a person can bring to the table that we want. When they no longer satisfy our requirement, we no longer see the need to continue pursuing the relationship. When we value someone simply for who they are, that value stands up to the great challenges that come along in any relationship because the value we place on that person is not based on selfish gain.
Where do we find our own value?
Just as we can base the value of objects and people on something stable or unstable, we can do the same with ourselves. If I see my value only in what I can offer others, it fluctuates. I go through highs and lows like a rollercoaster, dependent upon how well I perform. When I can find something more substantial and honest regarding my value and trust that source, I am much better off. What better source to inquire about my value than the One who created me?
One cool thing about God is that He is not like us when it comes to valuing people. He does not make the mistake of valuing us because of what we can do for Him. He chooses to love us, knowing we can never offer anything more than ourselves to Him. That love is seen clearly in the life and death of Jesus. He offered everything in the relationship He pursues with us. Our value is based on that love He has for us. When we embrace that love, our value is no longer in question.
Monday, July 07, 2014
Scars that Tell a Story
Both in its physical and emotional forms, "hurt" is an inescapable part of life. Some of us seem to be more exposed to it than others, which does not seem fair. Regardless of it's severity, it's a very difficult thing to deal with. When we are hurt by others we can attempt to withdraw from relationships as much as possible to minimize the chances of getting hurt again. We can alternatively look for something or someone to cover up the past hurts. We are let down when we realize these reactions do nothing to heal the wounds. Hurt is sometimes self-induced instead of inflicted by others. We make bad choices, and the result is pain for both ourselves and others that are affected. And then there are those hurtful situations in which no one seems directly responsible. Sickness, death, and other circumstances of life are just out of anyone's control. These often prove to be the most difficult of all.
Over time, wounds from hurts turn into scars.
After the initial wounding, there is a journey through the healing process. Sometimes that journey is long and painful. Many of our wounds leave scars (both physical and emotional). These scars feel ugly, so we want to hide them from others. We do not even want to look at them ourselves.
Often, our only option is to table the "why" questions.
From the moment of being hurt, we want to know "Why?". I believe it would be arrogant and presumptuous to try to answer that question. From my experience, and hearing others' talk about their hurts, the honest answer to this most difficult question is "I don't know". But we are hesitant to say those words out of fear of looking ignorant, feeling pressure to have all the answers, or wanting so badly to say the right thing to someone we know needs comfort. Thankfully, the truth is we don't need answers to be comforted, and we don't need answers to be a comfort to others.
The point of any story is rarely understood until the conclusion.
Jesus was wounded in many ways up until his crucifixion. Even after his resurrection, Jesus was left with scars from the wounds He received. These scars are mentioned in John 20 when Thomas asked to touch them in order to know if it was actually Jesus or an imposter. As Thomas saw the scars and touched them, he immediately knew it was Jesus. The scars on Jesus' hands, feet, and side identified Him. They told a story. At that point, Thomas and others began to understood what once was a mystery to them. I suspect many of us will one day touch those scars ourselves in awe of what took place in the making of those scars, and what they truly mean.
Our scars will tell a story, too.
We, ourselves, have scars that will one day tell a story. But for now, the wounds and scars are a mystery. Most of them will likely remain that way for a while. The point of hurt may not be that our scars will one day tell a beautiful story, and it certainly does not fix anything even if they did. However, it may can be a source of hope for us if they do.
Over time, wounds from hurts turn into scars.
After the initial wounding, there is a journey through the healing process. Sometimes that journey is long and painful. Many of our wounds leave scars (both physical and emotional). These scars feel ugly, so we want to hide them from others. We do not even want to look at them ourselves.
Often, our only option is to table the "why" questions.
From the moment of being hurt, we want to know "Why?". I believe it would be arrogant and presumptuous to try to answer that question. From my experience, and hearing others' talk about their hurts, the honest answer to this most difficult question is "I don't know". But we are hesitant to say those words out of fear of looking ignorant, feeling pressure to have all the answers, or wanting so badly to say the right thing to someone we know needs comfort. Thankfully, the truth is we don't need answers to be comforted, and we don't need answers to be a comfort to others.
The point of any story is rarely understood until the conclusion.
Jesus was wounded in many ways up until his crucifixion. Even after his resurrection, Jesus was left with scars from the wounds He received. These scars are mentioned in John 20 when Thomas asked to touch them in order to know if it was actually Jesus or an imposter. As Thomas saw the scars and touched them, he immediately knew it was Jesus. The scars on Jesus' hands, feet, and side identified Him. They told a story. At that point, Thomas and others began to understood what once was a mystery to them. I suspect many of us will one day touch those scars ourselves in awe of what took place in the making of those scars, and what they truly mean.
Our scars will tell a story, too.
We, ourselves, have scars that will one day tell a story. But for now, the wounds and scars are a mystery. Most of them will likely remain that way for a while. The point of hurt may not be that our scars will one day tell a beautiful story, and it certainly does not fix anything even if they did. However, it may can be a source of hope for us if they do.
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